What Are Soulmates?

A soulmate is when two souls have reincarnated from life to life many times and have become very close. Soulmates can be anyone you know, such as your best friend, parent, sibling, or a romantic partner. A lot of people associate soulmates as meaning someone they are meant to live their life within a relationship, but this isn’t always the case. Let me share with you what I have learned about soulmates over the years.

“I want to find my soul mate!” I hear this a lot with people asking how they can find their soul mate. A soul mate is a bit more complicated than is understood and I want to share with you what I have found about soul mates when I asked my spirit guides this same question.

WHAT IS A SOUL?

First, let’s talk about what a soul is. A soul is you and it is made of energy. You have a physical body and inside that body is your soul which is what keeps you alive. Your soul is what makes you, well you. Your soul is what carries your personality, your likes, and dislikes, and it is your soul that recognizes other souls in the people you meet.

Now, you are not the only one with a soul, almost everybody has a soul. I say almost, because believe it or not people are walking around this planet without a soul and that is a topic for another day. It is your soul that recognizes other souls that are within other people.

Soul Connections

Have you ever met someone and felt this instant connection with them? You have so much in common, you think the same way, you have the same interests, it is almost uncanny. Then you say to each other, “It is really weird how much we are alike.” You become friends and the rest is history. That is a soul connection. Your soul recognizes that other soul because you most likely had past lives with that soul. Your souls know each other. The same can be said for someone you dislike. Have you ever met someone and just did not like them? You found them to be irritating, annoying, or they just rub you the wrong way.

My Personal Stories

I met this person when I was around 15 years old and as soon as I met them I did not like them at all. There was this instant dislike, an almost hate, for this person. This was a weird response since I didn’t even know them, but it was so deep and raw, it was impossible for me to ignore it.

After years of having this person in and out of my life I discovered we had many past lives together, almost all of my past lives involved this one person. It was our last life together where he killed me and I was still very angry about it. I did not know that consciously, but my soul remembered! The funny thing was this person had the opposite feelings towards me.

There was another instance where I met someone who was friends with everyone I knew when I was a teenager. Everyone liked this person, except for me. I had never talked to this person, I never hung out with them, I wasn’t even in the same room with them ever, but for some reason this person just irritated me and we never even spoke.

One day this person came up to me and randomly said, “I don’t know why, but you irritate me.” I told them the feeling was mutual. We didn’t understand it, because we didn’t really have any kind of relationship at all, but we agreed it was weird and left it at that. We never became friends or anything, we just avoided each other.

That is a soul connection. Our souls recognized each other, even though as humans we did not know each other, but we knew to stay away from each other. This could mean we shared a past life together and it didn’t go well.

These are soul connections, and we have them pretty often throughout our lives. These are people we shared past lives with and either were friends with each other or enemies.

Soulmates

Soul mates are a bit different. A soul mate is someone we have a strong connection with that affect us on a deep level. Now, there are a couple kinds of souls mates…

Soulmate: Type 1

The first type of soul mate is the one you have shared many lives with. You are usually connected by karma that needs to be healed. That does not mean the relationship is bad, it could also be good. It just means you are connected as you work out your karma with each other. When I met that person when I was 15 and felt an instant dislike for them, that is because we shared many past lives together. In a way we were soul mates, because this one soul was with me in almost all of my past lives. This type of connection for us was bad, because we have karma we need to work out and heal.

Soulmate: Type 2

The next type of soul mate is someone who is from your soul’s home and you are connected to each other from that home. To explain this a bit more, your soul started somewhere, a place it calls home. That place could be anywhere, on any planet, in any dimension, at any point in time. You and your soul mate are both from this home and you both decided to leave there to go live lives and eventually you ended up here on earth in the life you are in now. This type of soul connection is extremely deep and when you meet each other it is an instant connection, a friendship, or even a romantic relationship.

Twin Flames

Then there are twin flames. A lot of people want to know who their twin flame is and they assume it is the same as a soul mate. It is not. A twin flame is like a twin, it is two souls breaking apart from the same energy source. Think of how twins come from the same egg. Souls come from an energy source, so picture a ball of light in your mind right now. That ball of light represents you, your soul. Now imagine that ball of light splitting in two, making two balls of light; that is a twin flame. They are just like twins on earth, but as a soul. Often these souls are related, as in siblings, just like with earth twins.

I worked with someone who kept saying the person she is dating is her twin flame. As I helped her go through her past lives, we found that the person she is dating is her twin soul brother. They came from the same energy source, or ball of light. She was right, he is her twin flame, but she did feel a bit weird to think he is her soul’s brother. I get that, but on earth they are not siblings, so it really isn’t an issue. She has a very deep connection with this man and it is because they come from the same energy source. They are true twin flames.

Twin flames are not common. Soul mates are much more common.

Soulmates Can Be Anyone

Another point to understand is a soul mate could be any person in the world. Most people associate a soul mate with someone they are going to marry or are married to. This is not always the case. I have seen brothers, a parent and child, best friends, and a married couple who are soulmates.

A soul mate does not mean a perfect relationship, and I think a lot of people assume it does. Soul mates can dislike each other, too. Remember, a soul mate is someone you have shared many lives with or who is from your soul home, so that does not mean you have to like each other. Maybe, at one point in your soul’s history you two might have gotten along, but as you lives many lives you might have grown apart, had a fight, or something might have happened during a past life that caused a separation between you both.

When Soulmates Stay Apart

This leads to another point about soul mates, sometimes you agree to not live a life together. If you go from life to life with a soul mate it could get stale or boring. Before you both came into this life, maybe you agree not to be together, because you want to see what it is like. I worked with someone where this was happening. She liked this person who seemed distant from her. When she went through her past lives she found he was bored with their constant connection from life to life, so he left to try to live life by himself, but she wasn’t. He wanted to live this life without her to see what it was like, because they had never done that before. She was having a hard time with that.

Conclusion

Your soul mate could be anyone. You may already know them. Look at your friends and family, who are you connected with the most? They may be your soul mate, but it could also be someone you are romantically involved with. Just be open to the idea that soul mates can be anyone, not just someone you are dating.